Throughout my twenties, one of the major focuses I have maintained is my desire and drive for self-improvement. “You can’t beat someone who never quits.” This quote has been the one I keep close to remind me that the work is never done. Self-improvement is a long journey and you need self-improvement tips.
Along the way, I have picked up a few self-improvement tips that I believe are starting points when you decide enough is enough and you’re ready to start the work to become the best version of yourself.
1. Developing Self-Awareness
Self-awareness is a key component in living a fulfilling life. Creating a life that you desire depends on your ability to objectively look at yourself and your behaviour and make the necessary adjustments. Cultivating self-awareness is not easy, but trust me it is worth it. Here are a few things you can do to bring about a higher level of understanding of yourself
Ask others how they see you
This one can be hard but it will definitely be eye-opening. It’s important to be open to what the other person has to say and then take it back and evaluate it. One thing to note is that just because they say it doesn’t mean its is true, be sure to use a discerning eye when the feedback comes in. A rule of thumb I go by is that if three people say the same thing no matter how untrue I feel it is, I need to take a deeper look at it.
Ask yourself questions, journal and self-reflect
This is particularly important after a situation has stirred up a lot of heavy emotions. Get to the root of the feelings that your experiencing so that you can determine whether or not the beliefs that lead to the triggers are beliefs that you want to continue to stand-by.
Check in with yourself
Give yourself the space to explore new beliefs and ask yourself the hard questions. Take time daily or weekly to get to know yourself. Past, present and future.
2. Read, Listen Watch
While attempting to work toward a higher level of self-awareness I strongly suggest being extra careful of the types of content you are consuming. This means the time you spend mindlessly on Instagram, Tik Tok, Facebook or anywhere else on the internet would be better spent consuming content that will teach you how to reframe your thinking and ultimately get out of your own way. Whether it’s audiobooks, podcasts YouTube, or a good ol’ book. Find a way to learn for at least a half hour a day.
3. Look at your beliefs
I read this great book that talked about until we decide to look at our beliefs we will be controlled by them. This hit me hard, I know in my life this has rang true on more than one occasion. When I’m triggered by something someone has said or done and then when I take a good look at it turns out I’m actually just upset because of a belief that I have that was reinforced by what was done. Get comfortable with the fact that when you’re upset at someone it is almost never about them.
Self-improvement is a journey that never ends, it is a constant effort to look and readjust so that you can be and achieve what you set out to do, Trust me the journey is one that is rocky but so rewarding. Stay committed!